Should women pursue careers?
Often "career women" quickly refers to scriptures like:
An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
- She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
- She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar.
- She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.
- She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
- She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
- She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
- Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.
- She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.
- She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
- She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
- Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.
- She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
- She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
- She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
- Her children rise up and call her blessed;
- her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
- Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
-- Proverbs 31:10-30 (ESV)
Out of context, it seems like "an excellent wife" is someone with a business or career, but feminists often ignore the first part of this chapter:
The words of King Lemuel. An oracle that his mother taught him:
What are you doing, my son?
What are you doing, son of my womb?
What are you doing, son of my vows?Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings.
-- Proverbs 31:1-3 (ESV)
This chapter was not intended to set standards for all Christian women. This teaching was given specifically to a king by his queen mother which he records now in his own words.
Nobody can predict the future and to seek a wife in this fine detail would be an impossible task. Instead, King Lemuel more likely intended to communicate that one should seek a wife who is trustworthy (Proverbs 31:11) and then gives an example of a person whom they possibly knew very well.
The "wife" mentioned in this chapter were presumably King Lemuel's own wife, the queen, who had many "maiden" (Proverbs 31:15), who were wealthy because they could afford purple clothing (Proverbs 31:22), whose "husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land" (Proverbs 31:23).
Instead of listing standards that ladies should adhere to, King Lemuel praises this example wife's lifetime accomplishments (Proverbs 31:12) by reflecting on the past. Her praises were written in past tense which implies it already happened. Her children were old enough to be able to praise her (Proverbs 31:28). Nothing suggest that these accomplishments happened before they got married, immediately after marriage or at any stage simultaneously.
It is easy for a queen to be idle or even to be destructive (Proverbs 31:3), but this queen is praised because she still labored and traded with "the fruit of her hands" (Proverbs 31:16,31) to provide for the poor and her family (Proverbs 31:20-21).
Therefore, the chapter ends with:
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. -- Proverbs 31:31 (ESV)
This does not mean that women are not allowed to enter any kind of business. There are examples of businesswomen that was able to provide for example, Mary, Joanna, Susanna (Luke 8:2-3), Tabitha (Acts 9:36) and Lydia (Acts 16:14-15). None of these women were condemned for doing so and often women find themselves in circumstances where they are forced to labour like the widow Ruth.
However, none of these verses are an excuse of neglect marriages or families for the sake of a career or a business.